sorry for your loss stefan. i've been probably clinically depressed many times but i've gotten myself out of it as much as i've "lost it".
thank you for sharing the info.
Thanks for all your kind and encouraging words. Since this is not totally clear from the first post: This topic is so dear to me because I have also struggled with Major Depression since 2007, so I have seen it from the side of a psychologist with at least some training in clinical psych (although not to the level of licensing to become a therapist) and from the side of a person going through it. Even with my training and interning for a few months in the shop of one of the most prolific depression specialists in the world (AT Beck), it took me almost a year and a half to realize what was going on, and again that time to find a treatment that got me back close to 'normal'. Today, I am still a little slow sometimes (ask the people on my waiting list...) but otherwise o.k. In the end, the 3-year struggle with depression and its effect on my work - plus a psychologically trained director of public health and a medical dean who don't give a **** about people they work with - cost me my university job. I find it sad that even these 'professionals' don't know how to deal with one of the biggest public health problems, that's why I find it even more important to get the message out there and make people aware of it. I could have done without my friend's suicide as a stimulus to finally write this up, but I am sitting here thinking I should probably also integrate that better into my work (assuming I will find a job...) and hopefully make a difference for others who are struggling. And that includes creating awareness and taking away the taboos by openly talking about it.
Thoughtful and brave post, Stefan.
I'm very sorry for the loss of your friend.
Sorry to hear that you lost a friend. Thank you for sharing, it makes me reflect on my relationships with those that I care about and how I can work on being a better friend.
I've sullered from depression most of my adult life. (self diagnosed) I'm also guilty of self medicating all of my adult life. It became acute when my wife left me. Both the depression and medicating. I've struggled in 2012 to keep what's left of my sanity.
One of the things I've learned in life and preach in my kitchen is "don't run, don't hide, make it your bitcsh!
Went on the wagon, got my stuff together, checked my ego and remembered how much I love my wife. Divorce court was scheduled for this Friday. We cancelled yesterday.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel if you look for it. And I have to admit, God is great!
P.S. Merry Christmas!!!!
That is an amazing story Salty! Congrats! I pray the Lord's blessing on your marriage!
That is great news!
Well, tough to say "great thread" considering the topic.
Regardless, thanks for sharing Stefan and am VERY happy for ya Salty...
Im sorry to hear about your loss Stefan. Three weeks ago, I finally visited a doctor for the first time in 10 years. He diagnosed me with major depression and put me on anti depression meds. I quit smoking cold turkey and no more coffee. The last thing I want to do is off myself, but as the doc said...Ive been depressed for so long I really don't know what being not depressed feels like. Just a fact a of life for me I guess.
My condolences for the loss of your friend, that's tough.
I have suffered from the "black dog" (Winston Churchill's phrase) of depression for the past 8 years or so. It all started with losing my business and my Mom passing shortly thereafter. I spent almost a year in bed. When depressed, some people like me find their body releases cortisone to try and make you happy. It's a steroid and can cause you to gain a tremendous amount of weight in a short time period. Of course, the inactivity didn't help either. Then the self-hate and lack of confidence that comes with being overweight began. I lost many friends and a few good jobs because of it. I have never been suicidal or anywhere near it, though. I do believe it is important to get outside, go for a walk, have coffee with friends and generally keep integrated in society. I also live where SAD is a factor and I do my best to combat it with vitamin D and getting sunshine whenever I can. As men it is in our nature to not complain, bother anybody with our problems or seek professional aid when needed. I know that I should have got some advice earlier on, I would have learned to cope much better. I hope that stories like Stefan's and mine encourage a few people to evaluate their own lives and seek help if they require it.
Thank goodness I have a wonderful and supportive wife who I can talk to and props me up when I'm down. Without her, I can't say where I'd be today.