I don't think anyone is necessarily saying that finishing grit doesn't make a difference. Speaking for myself, I think what I'm saying is maybe people's expectations of what a finishing grit will do as far as perfomance are a bit off.
I think with all things being equal, and in a perfect world where inconsistent angles, problems with pressure, and something that hasn't been brought up much in this thread which is keeping the stone completely free of slurry, and swarf when finishing especially on lower grit stones weren't factored in, and an absolutely perfect apex was achieved on a knife with the only difference between them being the finish. The actual differences wouldn't be very drastic at all.
There are differences for sure though. I agree with
@stringer The things mentioned about tactile feedback are there. Also, how a scratch pattern can accentuate the properties of certain steels are there too. They just aren't these giant night and day differences.