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http://www.nytimes.com/2016/02/02/world/europe/benoit-violier-chef-dies.html?_r=0
Too much stress at the top.
Too much stress at the top.
What a bunch of (female cats). I wonder if his widow is cute...:whistling:
Apologies to those who interpreted the posting of a picture of Chef Violier and his wife as approval of the post replied to.
The problem is that is pure conjector on the quote author's part. It may be the case for some, or even many, but not necessarily all. Like most, I have known people who committed suicide, and some who tried. And some have been family members and in-laws. From those who tried, I'd say it was a 50/50 split as to how they felt (although we'll never know for sure). One I know who was successful did it with a measure of spite. Yeah, I agree ecchef's post wasn't in the best taste, but I also believe it is not a taboo subject and some people who commit suicide are in fact taking the easy way out. Pleue did a nice job summing up the attititude of many kitchen professionals -- and while I am definitwly not one myself, I understand there is little tolerance for people who can't hack it. A forum full of restaurant pros is one of the least like places to find sympathy after the fact; they will do all they can to help to prevent something like that from happening, but once the person makes that choice they often will never be viewed the same again.
With respect, how else could one interpret the posting of that picture?
I took it as "Yes, his widow is hot, here she is."
Maybe so, but sometimes going astray can lead to something fruitful. It makes you wonder what it means to hack it in his industry and who is the beholder of that supposed standard. I agree with wildboar that suicide isn't or at least shouldn't be a taboo subject as it diminishes the capacity for people to share those personal demons you mentioned as well as our capacity to listen and empathize.
I think most of your post is right, except the last part about pros... at least in my point of view.The problem is that is pure conjector on the quote author's part. It may be the case for some, or even many, but not necessarily all. Like most, I have known people who committed suicide, and some who tried. And some have been family members and in-laws. From those who tried, I'd say it was a 50/50 split as to how they felt (although we'll never know for sure). One I know who was successful did it with a measure of spite. Yeah, I agree ecchef's post wasn't in the best taste, but I also believe it is not a taboo subject and some people who commit suicide are in fact taking the easy way out. Pleue did a nice job summing up the attititude of many kitchen professionals -- and while I am definitwly not one myself, I understand there is little tolerance for people who can't hack it. A forum full of restaurant pros is one of the least like places to find sympathy after the fact; they will do all they can to help to prevent something like that from happening, but once the person makes that choice they often will never be viewed the same again.
I don't think ecchef is a bad guy for saying what he did, that is a sentiment about suicidality that that is condoned by society, and is especially prevalent in North America, I guess I could postulate this is perhaps a relic of North America's history which is deeply intertwined with Christianity (I think suicide is a mortal sin if I recall, or something). However simply because something is condoned by the majority does not make it right.
The restaurant industry is plagued by alcoholism and drugs addiction, which are almost always symptoms of a deeper mental illness, whether it be clinical depression or what have you. There is a lot of romanticizing about going to the bar after work, yadda yadda. There are always a few people in every kitchen who spend the bulk of their paycheck on rent and getting altered. It is sad to see someone who is like a family member, like a comrade in the trenches, self destruct outside of work. It's not cute. It's not funny. It's sad to see people going down the "wrong path."
Very poor taste, gentlemen (and I am using that term ironically at the moment). This thread is the only thing I have seen so far that has turned me off to this community.
Here is another article with a nice video embedded that gives a better sense of the chef. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news...-highlights-pressure-cooker-of-haute-cuisine/
An excellent piece, but instead of "suicide highlights pressure-cooker of haute cuisine," I would like to see "suicide highlights insidious nature of mental illness."
I'm a college science prof. I often tell students "there is a very fine line between careful attention to detail and malignant perfectionism. Attention to detail will take you far. Perfectionism can kill you. Only you can tell where that line is."
I always worry a bit (from experience) when we send perfectionists to med school.
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