At least over here (subtropical climate), the #1 source of energy consumption is air conditioning. In a colder climate, that might be less of an issue, but then you end up heating more. (Heaters here run only for a weeks at most, and then only for a few hours in the early morning and evening.)
Next on the list is the hot water system. These things eat a lot of electricity.
In third place are refrigerators, freezers, washing machines, and clothes dryers. Refrigeration doesn't consume that much power, but makes up for it by being turned on permanently. And clothes driers are really energy hungry.
Everything else (cooking, lighting, electronics) is a drop in a bucket compared to the first three.
Yeah in general lines I agree. The hot water was a big surprise for me; my central heating and hot water all comes from the same fairly efficient and reasonably new gas heater.... but even then my jaw dropped at how much it consumes. If I handwash a bunch of dishes I'll consume as much or more gas doing the dishes than doing the actual cooking. I never particularly minded taking long showers because 'water is cheap'... but now that gas prices have gone up that's becoming a different story.
Similar with the ovens; I have one big 90 cm stove with a big oven in it and my jaw dropped at how much energy that thing sucks down. It gets to the point where 'low and slow' cooking methods that are traditionally recommended to save money by going for cheaper cuts might actually not save any money at all.
IIRC when it comes to seperate boiling water systems in the kitchen it largely depends on how much of it you use in a day; for occasional use it's definitly a waste, but if you regularly consume a lot of hot water it actually becomes rather negligible.
When it comes to AC / heating it all depends a lot on how well insulated your house is. I'm lucky enough to live in a fairly new appartment building and as a result - even as night time temperatures have gone down to -8 it's still 17-18 degrees inside
without using my heating at all. In my experience it took me about a week for my body to adjust to 1c lower temperature to be perfectly comfortable again. Generally speaking, regardless of insulation, the cheapest way to be comfortably warm (apart from the no-brainers like putting on a sweater and socks) is to drink hot beverages. Tea is cheaper than gas!
Freezers and fridges are highly dependent on how new / energy efficient they are... but I've definitly started reconsidering simply using my 25 year old freezer 'until it breaks down' after I put a kwh-meter on it.
Personally I never saw the point in having a clothes drier.... had access to one for a few years in one of my student homes, never saw a reason to get one myself after I moved out.
With electronics I'd say don't ignore it entirely. Yes, LED lights consume very little, but for example (non-mobile) computers and television setups can still consume a fair amount, especially when you haven't optimized efficiency settings. For example my GPU was sucking down a constant 60w even in idle due to a bug preventing it from going into a lower power state when having multiple monitors connected. And one of the cable providers here had a tv-box that had an idle usage of 230 kwh a year; that's more than an efficient modern refrigerator. But the best way to go abou tthis is to just systematically go through all your devices with a kwh-meter and see what they suck down in a few days.