Yet-Another-Dave
Well-Known Member
I read an article a couple of weeks ago (that I now can not find) about a chef being harassed by another chef. After a couple "I'm not interested" didn't seem to work the next time they were in the walk-in for inventory and he tried to make a move she stabbed him with a fork in the thigh. She said he screamed in pain, cursed at her, left the walk in, and never bothered her again.
It worked that time.
How many times has it turned into fired, arrested, and convicted of assault? Few enough you'd be willing to risk it? In a culture that stereotypes, even institutionalizes, the "lying b*tch", what should a woman assume her odds are in a "he-said" / "she-said" situation? Now, what are the odds in a "he has physical evidence" / "she-said"? You don't need much imagination to figure out several stories starting with, "I just ask her out and she....", all ending with plausible deniability and another perp off the hook, with a victim shamed or punished. How many times would you need to see that story play out before you concluded it was a hopeless lose-lose situation and sucked it up and endured as a least of all evils solution?
if the guility animal is top of the food chain, then simply go work somewhere else. why would one want to stick around in that environment, no one is forcing them to stay.
Not possible, if you need to earn a living, in an environment when odds are the same things go on at 7 or 8 of each 10 alternatives, assuming there are any alternatives. How often does a "trouble maker" get branded and black-balled? (Sometimes for legitimate reasons, but often not.) What are your options then? Change fields?
I'd guess the initial few brave souls to come forward where not only fed up, but in a personally secure situation that provided a safe landing zone / escape plan. If your situation requires this paycheck to make rent or buy your next meal, (or you kid's next meal!), it is hard to be brave and risk losing that even if you're doing the right thing in an abstract sense!