McMan
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SteakIs there any food that doesn't taste better fried?
SteakIs there any food that doesn't taste better fried?
Social transition is difficult to wrap your head around, even for trans people. Medical transition on the other hand is virtually inevitable. After five years on hormones most trans people are effortlessly perceived as their gender. The question is what to do in the meantime.Sounds like you’re talking about people choosing their own pronouns, no?
Here’s how I look at it. For some (not huge, but present) number of people, being allowed to choose their pronouns and have people respect their choice is incredibly life affirming and life changing. They feel seen and accepted. For many of us, it’s legitimately difficult to incorporate these changes into how we operate. It takes a lot of effort to suppress a lifetime’s understanding of gender; I know a bunch of people who use nontraditional pronouns and I frequently screw them up in my head, and (less frequently) out loud. But it’s so worth it to try since it makes such a huge difference to those involved, and it’s really not that big a deal to the rest of us.
Edit: regarding the phrasing above, most people who’ve changed genders would say that it’s not even a “choice”. A colleague of mine spent most of her life as a super depressed, somewhat odd man, but now she’s living life as an amazing, happy, outgoing woman that’s a force for good in the community. For her, it was undoubtably traumatic to make that transition, e.g. her marriage didn’t survive, but she had to do it, and the result was completely transformative. TLDR: Questions of biology just seem less relevant to me in the face of someone’s transformational joy.
There is no failure in my logic. It becomes my business when people make it my business.
But this is probably a discussion I best let be.
Hey, I’m always sort of curious about this. Do you know anyone personally who uses different pronouns than you expect? I feel like our society is really segregated in that sense, so that living in a big city and working in a very liberal field, I know a ton of such people, but I don’t think that’s the norm across the US. It’s always really interesting to me to talk to good people with different backgrounds about their life experiences. But we can also let it be.
Agree here on the direct substitutions with a few exceptions:I've had some pretty good fried tofu, jackfruit, oyster mushrooms, cauliflower, etc. I generally hate trying to make direct substitutions/imitations. Never quite the same. But there is plenty of different fried stuff out there that's equally good in it's own way.
Also a local vegetarian place does a tofu Bahn mi and a fried oyster mushroom poboy that are both smacking. Had some really good Buffalo seitan too
But I'm still resentful of my mom constantly trying to make tofu versions of our normal meals when she was trying to go vegetarian for a bit. Like don't set it up to fail, just make something where it shines naturally rather than throwing BBQ sauce or whatever on it.
I don't care too much about the pronouns people want to give themselves, what I however strongly dislike is the choice 'they' and 'them' when it's clearly about one person.
I guess you can change into some other gender, maybe multiple genders, dunno, but last time I checked it still wasn't possible to change into multiple persons.
In some other languages than English this completely breaks grammar and entire sentences. This style of writing is truly annoying to read as my brain constantly says 'hey that's wrong!'.
I get what you're saying but I was reading an article about some celebrity a while ago, don't remember 100%, think it was Demi Lovato, which was written like 'Demi were going to... ' and 'Demi have always been... '. I have actually never read anything like this before to be honest.
I don't care too much about the pronouns people want to give themselves, what I however strongly dislike is the choice 'they' and 'them' when it's clearly about one person.
I guess you can change into some other gender, maybe multiple genders, dunno, but last time I checked it still wasn't possible to change into multiple persons.
In some other languages than English this completely breaks grammar and entire sentences. This style of writing is truly annoying to read as my brain constantly says 'hey that's wrong!'.
I get what you're saying but I was reading an article about some celebrity a while ago, don't remember 100%, think it was Demi Lovato, which was written like 'Demi were going to... ' and 'Demi have always been... '. I have actually never read anything like this before to be honest.
I get my moral philosophy from ST:TNG, soIf he became a she (sorry, channeling some Lou Reed there), I’m going to be polite and use their preferred pronouns while minding my own business
See my second post with some examples please, what you're referring to is not what I am talking about.
Also, I don't understand the desire to pick a fight here, as I clearly state I do not have a problem with the cause... You come across like someone who just wants to kick stuff just because.
Singular they has been around but in a slightly different context it sounds very strange to me. Language is weird like that.Singular they has been around for a bazillion years see some discussion here
This is like going ham on people for saying "axe" in lieu of "ask", it's a weird thing to get up in arms about and feels like it ignores the history of the language. They is fine as gender free singular. "He or she" on the other hand is awkward and deserves your ire instead, IMO.
I’ve eaten at Kennedy Fried Chicken several times, outta necessity—can’t be choosy at 2am.I have never liked KFC
It was always too greasy for me. Popeye’s is my choice. I never had the guts to walk into Kennedy Fried Chicken.
CORRECTION: in my post I’d mistakenly wrote ‘Joe Beef,’ but had meant to write ‘Mr Beef.’You planning on Johnnie's for a combo, dipped, hot n sweet, and a stop at Ricobene's for a breaded steak?
That's the one that inspired The BearCORRECTION: in my post I’d mistakenly wrote ‘Joe Beef,’ but had meant to write ‘Mr Beef.’
Didn’t know about Johnnie’s or Ricobene’s.
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I’m aware, …had to do the obligatory tourist shot. It wasn’t far from where I was working/staying.That's the one that inspired The Bear
Go to Japan and order some cream crab croquettes or Spain for croquetas de jamon and you will change your mind…Bechamel.
Deep Fried Fresh Black Truffles. I’d eat that.Fresh truffles. Consommé. Bechamel.
Is that a beer no wonder it's goodGerolsteiner is my favorite by far
it's mineral water, my fave is Römerquelle (being high in Mg+ is likely why I like it) but that is hard to find around hereIs that a beer no wonder it's good
Sounds like you’re talking about people choosing their own pronouns, no?
Here’s how I look at it. For some (not huge, but present) number of people, being allowed to choose their pronouns and have people respect their choice is incredibly life affirming and life changing. They feel seen and accepted. For many of us, it’s legitimately difficult to incorporate these changes into how we operate. It takes a lot of effort to suppress a lifetime’s understanding of gender; I know a bunch of people who use nontraditional pronouns and I frequently screw them up in my head, and (less frequently) out loud. But it’s so worth it to try since it makes such a huge difference to those involved, and it’s really not that big a deal to the rest of us.
Edit: regarding the phrasing above, most people who’ve changed genders would say that it’s not even a “choice”. A colleague of mine spent most of her life as a super depressed, somewhat odd man, but now she’s living life as an amazing, happy, outgoing woman that’s a force for good in the community. For her, it was undoubtably traumatic to make that transition, e.g. her marriage didn’t survive, but she had to do it, and the result was completely transformative. TLDR: Questions of biology just seem less relevant to me in the face of someone’s transformational joy.
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